Today I would like to address the idea of being a fit helper. "The role of being a perfectly fit helper does not make one inferior to the leader." (Debbie Pearl) The world today has filled women's heads with the utterly stupid idea that being someones helper makes you less of an important person. Somehow helping someone in a task and not being the ramrod makes you less of a person. We as Godly wives and women need to realize that Satan wants us to view our role as a help meet this way. It often stops our husbands from leading the family or enables them to continue in the non active role they already take. This stagnates and makes the family unit totally ineffective. Exactly what the evil one wants. Satan will not come at us with a pitchfork and flaming red tail complete with horns. We would see him right off. He comes to us in a beautiful package that twists the Truth of God just enough to play to our weaknesses and selfish desires. He wants nothing more than to make your husbands role a leader the most appealing job you've ever seen. He wants you to think that both husband and wife must work outside the home, and that the noble job that is rightfully ours is thankless and beneath us. He whispers in our ears that our talents could be used so much more else where. I could go on and on with only the lies he whispered in my ears. The point is that they are LIES. They go against the very word and will of God.
Now that we have addressed that the world and Satan wish to keep us down and beneath the noble position that the Lord would have us fill. I would like to give you an example. I worked for a wonderful couple in a local photography business for almost 11 years. I started there when I was 19. I love this couple like they are my family. I have watched their children grow, one from 5 years old and the other from 5 months old into wonderful young people. In working for them I eventually did everything except organize the wedding layouts, pay the bills, and write the pay checks. I was their helper. I did what ever was needed when it was needed. Nothing was too much to ask. I would have painted the Empire State building with a makeup brush if either of them had asked. I tried to anticipate the needs of the studio before they were ever voiced. Nothing was menial about my job. The studio became our studio. It was never just theirs in my eyes. I knew every little detail I could take care of for them helped ease their stress and freed them for other tasks. I learned every nuance of the business from taking out the trash to working on the $35,000.00 equipment. In cleaning up the shooting room after a crazy session I never felt below my friend Craig. NEVER!!! I never felt more important then him either. We worked as a perfectly oiled machine. A team. He, his wife and I knew what the others were thinking often before it was ever said. We had a common goal and a drive to accomplish it like no other. Sounds like the perfect dream huh??? Well, we had problems over the almost 11 years. However, it was nothing that the love and true Godly friendship we had for each other didn't see us through. We had been through it all.
How many of us as wives attack the role as helper with this type of dedication? I know I didn't. Did they ask me to do things sometimes that didn't make much sense to me? You bet. You can also bet the farm that I did what ever they asked, the way they asked, and when they asked. Do we show the same obedient courtesy to the mates the Lord has given us for life? I would like to leave you with a scripture to chew on until the next time I write. 1 Cor. 11:8-9 says," For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."
Try These
Make a new habit: think of ways you can be a fit helper to your husband and get started right away.
Get Serious
Look up these words in your Bible. Write the verses in a journal and ask God to work each of these out in your life and to mold them into your character.
Virtue, Graciousness, Wisdom, Prudence and Goodness.
God's love and blessings be yours today and every day.
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